How do we know if couples' counseling will help us?
May 22, 2016
There is no such thing as a perfect relationship. When two people make a commitment to one another, they also bring their own history, values, and opinions into the union. Couples therapy helps couples (married or not) improve their relationship by giving them communication skills, problem-solving skills and helping them negotiate their differences. Many things can affect the quality of a marriage or relationship. Relationships can be tested in numerous ways – even the gradual growing apart from one another. Most people hope that problems will resolve automatically, but that is rarely the case. In fact the sooner couples seek help, the better the outcome in therapy.
Infidelity, anger, illness, and sexual issues are common reasons people decide to seek help from a marriage counselor. Adults who have suffered from chronic trauma during their childhoods from trusted adults often have a history of impaired personal relationships. But a troubled relationship can also affect each individual in the relationship, and can especially affect the quality of life of the children in the family. Resolution of problems is not the only reason couples come into therapy. Some couples seek counseling to strengthen and deepen their bond with one another. They want to understand each other at a more intimate level.
Couples therapy may be short-term (just a few sessions) or take longer, depending on how far your relationship has deteriorated. Most couple’s therapy involves weekly sessions with homework in between that is designed to improve communication and foster a deeper bond.